Late in Life Lesbian Resource List
Resources for Late in Life Lesbians
Curious or questioning your sexual orientation, coming to terms with being a late in life lesbian, and/or coming out late? Wherever you are in your process, many of these resources will be helpful!
You may also want to check out our Coming Out Later in Life Support Group. We’ve been meeting since 2015 and many women have called this group “a life-saver.” Please reach out to me for a free 15-minute consultation.
COVID NOTE: Please check all websites for information about hours, seating limits, mask and vaccine mandates.
Reading for Late in Life Lesbians
- Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire Lisa Diamond, 2009
- Late Bloomers: Awakening to Lesbianism After 40 Robin McKoy, 2000
- Dear John, I Love Jane Walsh, André, and Diamond, 2010
- Switching Teams: What Coming Out Late in Life Taught Me about Love, Conquering Fear, and Embracing Change Dawn Waters, 2015
- Lesbian Epiphanies: Women Coming Out in Later Life Karol L. Jensen, 1999
- Married Women Who Love Women Carren Strock, 2008
- And Then I Met This Woman: Previously Married Women’s Journeys into Lesbian Relationships Cassingham and O’Neil, 1999
- Living Two Lives: Married to a Man & In Love with a Woman, Joanne Fleisher, 2012
- How To Be a Happy Lesbian: A Coming Out Guide Tracey Stevens and Katherine Wunder, 2002
- The Straight Girls Guide to Sleeping with Chicks Jen Sincero, 2005
- Sexual Intimacy for Women: A Guide for Same-Sex Couples Glenda Corwin, 2010
- UnClobber: Rethinking Our Misuse of the Bible on Homosexuality Martin and Doyle Melton, 2016
- Walking the Bridgeless Canyon: Repairing the Breach Between the Church and the LGBT Community Baldock, Mann, Danbury, Phillips, and Reiter, 2014
- What the Bible Really Says About Homosexuality Daniel A. Helminiak, 2000
- Untamed Glennon Doyle, 2020
Online Resources for Late in Life Lesbians
Autostraddle is a serious labor of love. A group of friends wanted to start a revolution. Their creation is now the world’s most popular lesbian website, with over one million unique visitors and 3.5 million views per month.
- The GA Voice
Amazing website with tons of great info. Check out the Best Bets page for local events and happenings and the Religious Organizations page. You’ll find tons and tons of great info — lots of reading.
- Georgia Equality
Two amazing organizations with slightly different missions. This website is a great way to get informed on legislative activities, get active, and/or financially support civil rights efforts
- Human Rights Campaign, Atlanta
The HRC addresses lesbian and gay legal and civil rights. This website is Atlanta-focused. A visit to the HRC GA page indicates Georgia has NO anti-discrimination laws addressing sexual orientation or gender identity.
A private website that promotes businesses and events related to gay life, both local and national. Very fun website, great newsfeed/blog that covers all aspects of gay life. Recently spotted: “For ladies who love the ladies — 5 ways to up your dating game.” Essential for women coming out late.
- Project Q Atlanta and Project Q Atlanta Magazine
From the website: “a distinct take on the news, information, events, attitudes – and the juicy dish and buzz – that impact our lives”
Support and Advocacy
- PFLAG Atlanta
Georgia chapter of the national organization. A great first stop for everyone with lots of basic questions about sexuality. The site includes a FAQ section for “beginners,” support groups, advocacy, education, and more.
- LiLLY Late in Life Lesbians
(FB page that requires invitation. Email Andrea to request an invitation.)
From their website: “Like Facebook, but run by kinksters like you and me.”
- Southern Fried Queer Pride
From the website: “An Atlanta-based queer and trans, arts and advocacy organization and festival celebrating the vibrant communities of the Southern United States”
Southern Jewish Resource Network for Gender and Sexual Diversity – Promotes increased understanding, acceptance, and inclusion of individuals across the entire spectrum of gender and sexual orientation in the Southeast through education, outreach, and advocacy, inspired by Jewish and universal ethics and ideals.
- The LGBTQ Therapist Resource – An Atlanta organization of licensed mental health providers offering specialized services in one or more sexual orientation and/or gender diversity issues.
Dating for Late in Life Lesbians
- Pink Cupid
- Elite Singles
- Our Time
- Black People Meet
- Compatible Partners
- The League
- Senior Lesbians
…just to get you started.
Be Safe – Consider creating a new email address that does not identify you. Use a non-identifying photo in your profile (if the site allows it.) Always meet in public.
Get Connected, Volunteer, Explore
- Atlanta Pride
- Trulia Ranks Avondale Estates, GA one of the 11 Most Lesbian Friendly zip codes (30002)
- Meetup.com – Look for “Explore by Category”, choose LGBTQ
- Atlanta Gay Christians Meetup Group
- Social Events for Gay & Lesbian Professionals Meetup Group
- Women’s Outdoor Network
- Onyx Pearls Southeast Munch (Meetup for women of color over 21 years of age interested in bondage/discipline/sadism/masochism)
- Fox Mountain Camp and Artistic Retreat
- Atlanta Coffee Talk for LesBeans
- Fulcrum Meetup (LGBTQ support group)
Keep It Movin’!
- Hotlanta Softball League – Founded by the LGBTQ+ community in 1981
- Decatur Women’s Sports League — Basketball, softball, bowling, volleyball, and more on Facebook
- Atlanta Team Tennis Association — Atlanta affiliate of the Gay and Lesbian Tennis Alliance (GLTA)
- Atlanta Roller Girls / Roller Derby
- Women’s Outdoor Network
- All Stripes LGBTQ and Allied supporters of Atlanta United FC
- Atlanta Lesbian and Gay Chamber of Commerce, Aka OUT GA Business Alliance
- Gay Pages Directory of LGBTQIA++ friendly businesses since 2005
- Gay and Lesbian Business Directory
LGBTQ Nightlife & Other Experiences
- Trapeze Club (swingers’ club)
- My Sister’s Room (lesbian bar in Midtown Atlanta)
- Smith’s Olde Bar (bar with live music in Midtown)
- MJQ Concourse (dance club in Virginia Highland, Wednesday nights very popular)
- Sound Table (dance club in Inman Park area)
- Sister Louisa’s Church of the Living Room & Ping Pong Emporium (bar in the MLK District)
- Mary’s (bar in East Atlanta)
- 1763 (bondage/discipline/sadism/masochism “dungeon” in Tucker)
- Eddie’s Attic (live music; lesbian artists draw a largely lesbian audience)
Spiritual and Religious Support
Please see The GA Voice for a comprehensive listing of gay-affirming churches, synagogues, and places of worship.
- The Catholic Shrine of the Immaculate Conception (downtown>
- Spiritual Living Center of Atlanta (Sunday talks, classes near Brookhaven)
- Center for Spiritual Living Midtown (Sunday services, meditation in Midtown)
- Unitarian Universalist Metro Atlanta North (Services, education, & community events in Roswell)
- Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Atlanta (Brookhaven)
- Unitarian Universalist Northwest Congregation (Sandy Springs)
- Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Gwinnett (Lawrenceville)
- The Gathering Place Worship Center Atlanta (Christ-centered, Spanish church near Brookhaven)
- Saint Mark United Methodist Church (Midtown)
- The Catholic Shrine of the Immaculate Conception (downtown)
- Central Presbyterian Church (downtown)
- Congregation Bet Haverim (North Druid Hills)
- Central Congregational United Church of Christ (North Druid Hills)
- Congregation Beth Tefillah (Sandy Springs)
- Unity Atlanta (Sunday services, adult education, Peachtree Corners/Norcross)
- St. Bartholomew’s Episcopal Church (Toco Hills)
- The Episcopal Church of the Epiphany (Candler Park)
LGBTQ Major Events in Atlanta
- Atlanta Pride Festival– A three day festival in Piedmont Park full of music, vendors, parades, and much more.
- Atlanta Black Pride – To educate, celebrate, promote African American LGBTQ++ people and their families.
- Ladies Rock Camp/Girls Rock Camp – Multi-day music workshop
- Sex Down South Conference
- Frolicon “Where nerdy meets naughty.” Bondage/discipline/sadism/masochism. Attend anonymously.
LGBTQ Recovery Communities
- Narcotics Anonymous
- Alcoholics Anonymous
- Galano Club LGBTQIA++ AA/NA (Midtown)
- AA The Triangle Club (Roswell/Sandy Springs)
- AA St. Bartholomew Episcopal Church (Toco Hills)
- AA Branan Towers (senior, subsidized living in East Atlanta)
- NA Central Presbyterian Church (downtown)
- SMART (Self Management and Recovery Training) (Johns Creek meeting is especially LGBTQ-friendly)
- Women for Sobriety
- Women’s Sobriety Book Club & Other Recovery Events on Meetup.com
Email me with suggested additions of publications, organizations, events, and more that celebrate sexual orientation and gender identity diversity for women.